It took me almost two hours to get this across to a friend a few weeks ago. He got it though, in the end.
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You don’t go around calling people microwave-users just because they consistently tend to use microwaves to heat food instead of the oven… Sometimes they might use the oven. Maybe never at all.
An act doesn’t reflect an identity upon that person unless someone makes that happen - the person, by choosing it for themselves, or society, for impressing it upon them.
EXACTLY. That’s why I hate discussions where people try to establish what someone else’s sexual orientation “really” is.
(Text reads: “There is no automatic or axiomatic relation between a particular sexual act and the identity of the person performing it.”)
I quite like that microwave vs. oven analogy. Although it does kind of fall apart if you think about frozen foods which...